My Daughter, My Best Friend

My best friend, Sabrina, cheering me up with a Santa cupcake, as my stem cells are extracted
My best friend, Sabrina, cheering me up with a Santa cupcake, as my stem cells are extracted

This year, I have been surrounded by the love and support of family, friends and an entire community.  My two primary caregivers have been my husband, Nagib, and my daughter, Sabrina.  This post is for you Sabrina.

Sabrina — We shared the news of the cancer diagnoses with you over a difficult Skype conversation when you had just returned from Milan to Africa.  The Skype connection kept getting cut off.  We had to finally resort to a phone conversation and even then, the connection was unclear at best.  In spite of the distance and multiple calls, the words came out, the reality sank in and we cried a lot.  You made a decision to come home in spite of our protests.  And I am so glad you did!

I remember the first words you uttered when we picked you up from the  airport.  After giving me a bear hug, you declared that I needed a best friend and that you were here to look after me.  I really did not know what to expect.  After all, in my world, it is the parents who look after their children, not the other way around.  How can I thank you for what you have done for me over the past 10 months?  You have been with me for every chemo treatment, every clinic appointment with the doctor, every blood work appointment, every test that I have had to go through as part of the treatment.  You have stayed with me when I was hospitalized over many days.  You have been there to help me deal with disappointments and to celebrate the happy moments.  You have seen me at my best and my worst – when I was cranky, grouchy and downright egocentric.   You knew when I wanted to be left alone, and when I wanted to be held.   You knew when to be silly with me.

Two fishies in a pond
Two fishies in a pond

You instinctively knew what to say to make things better.  You have loved me unconditionally.  The truth is that you make me a better person for being with you.  And I count every moment that I spend with you as a blessing.  I am in awe of who you are and what you have accomplished.  I am even more in awe of your spirit and your being – – your compassion, your capacity to love and your generosity.

You are now going back to Africa and we send you with all our love.  Just know that I will miss your recommendations of books to read, new apps to try, cool websites to discover.  I will miss the excitement of listening to your goals,  your dreams and your projects.  I will especially miss your hugs and cuddles.  I guess we will pick this up virtually! As you leave for Africa today, I pray that God protect you and envelope you in his love.  I pray that you continue to make a difference in the world.  I wish for all your dreams, goals and aspirations be realized.  I pray for your good health and vitality.  I hope that you have the opportunity to share your talents and gifts with the world.  And I wish for you to stand in your power and show up in the world!  I feel so blessed to have a daughter who also happens to be my best friend in the whole, wide expanding universe.

– Your mommy and best friend.

22 Comments

  • Shafik Premji , February 7, 2013

    What a beautiful Story. We pray for all of you. Mom and Daughter bond is priceless!!
    Cheers,
    Shaft

  • Farzi , January 24, 2013

    Hi munira,
    I am very happy tonight which I could have access to your website,I have got your website address recently from shayn in dental office,tonight I could go through it , and now I have special feeling, which I can not explain exactly in English, I wish you knew my language , then I could tell you what is in the bottom of my heart ,when I was reading I coud not stop my crying ,it was not a kind of sadness ,it is a kind of emotion which you undrestand what I mean ,I am happy for you ,and I know how proud you are ,of your daughter and son ,and also your husband,I beleave it is the highest luckyness in the world,which you deserve,with the best wishes for you and your family,God bless you.(Excuse my English,and writing, if there was some mistakes)
    With the warmest regards,
    Farzi

  • Anonymous , January 4, 2013

    What a beautiful tribute. Safe travels Sabrina.

    • Premji Family , January 9, 2013

      Thank you. I really wanted this to be a tribute to Sabrina. Munira

  • Renee Schachter , January 3, 2013

    Munira- What a beautiful moving tribute to a remarkable young woman. It is no surprise to read of all her attributes, given what I know of her amazing mom! Wishing Sabrina safe travels, and sending you both love. I can’t wait to follow her accomplishments as she makes our world a better place. xo R

    • Premji Family , January 9, 2013

      Hi Renee! Thanks for commenting. Sabrina promises to blog while in Africa and I can’t wait to hear all her captivating stories. Love to you and your family! Munira

  • Dilshad Nathoo , January 3, 2013

    Touching post as USUAL!! A relationship between a mother and child is a bond created by God and can only be so special. Gorgeous, gorgeous pictures!!! I agree with Barbara…have you both thought of getting together a professional profile and perhaps sending it to say New York….maybe slip it in Shayne’s suitcase as he seems to go so often?
    Lots of love to you all and may the New Year bring you lots of good health, happiness, spiritual and physical peace and fulfillment of all your wishes!

    Arif, Dilshad, Nareesa and Tahara

    • Premji Family , January 9, 2013

      I love hearing from you! I am so sorry we were not able to get together in December – – first time in many years! Please let’s plan to do something soon. Its time for some cuddle-cuddle, big hugs and lots of laughter. And stories. And food! Munira

  • Lucy , January 3, 2013

    Agree Munira, your daughter is a great person. I remember when she joined our office in Mombasa she kept telling me how she missed you, that you were her best friend. You are lucky to have her and after interacting with you through this blog, it is clear that her parents have mentored her for who she is.

    All the best Sabrina. Take all the messages from this blog on living and am sure they will be great foundation to your path of leaving a legacy to the society.

    Am sure we will cross paths soon!

    • Premji Family , January 9, 2013

      Thanks Lucy I feel very blessed to have Sabrina in my life. Miss her so! Munira

  • Barbara , January 2, 2013

    Munira – what a great post. It’s so touching to see the amazing bond between you and Sabrina. She is a beautiful and special person – just like her mother! What great photos of the two of you. You both could pass as models. Wishing you and the family lots of love for a happy and healthy 2013. Miss you Munira 🙂

    • Premji Family , January 9, 2013

      Thanks Barbara! Models, huh?! Love, Munira

  • Anonymous , January 2, 2013

    All the best Sabrina

    you are very lucky to be given that assignment as well out of so many canadiates who probably may have lots of experience as well with degrees and had the desire to serve
    good, keep it up!

  • Nancy Simpson , January 2, 2013

    What a lovely tribute to Sabrina, who will absolutely continue to change the world! A healthy, blessed and Happy New Year to you Munira.
    Nancy

    • Anonymous , January 2, 2013

      Daughters hold the key to their mothers hearts! Salute to you Sabrina for being such a wonderful daughter. My prayers are with you for a full recovery. Amen.
      God Bless
      Shahina.

    • Premji Family , January 9, 2013

      Thanks Nancy. I wish the same for you for 2013. Can’t wait to see you and hear about your kids and your writing and everything in between! Much love, Munira

  • mylegacytoyou , January 2, 2013

    Beautiful pictures of the two of you… All my very best to you Sabrina!
    Deva

    • Premji Family , January 9, 2013

      Sabrina is doing great. She’s had quite the eventful week in Nairobi. But I miss her so! Munira

  • Anonymous , January 2, 2013

    Sabrina, we wish you all the best in your endeavours! Mukhianimaa, we’re all here for you always. Our prayers are with you and your family.
    Nimet

    • Premji Family , January 9, 2013

      Thanks Nimet! We so appreciate your prayers and your support! Munira

  • Shahenaz Jaffer , January 2, 2013

    What an awesome post Mukhianimaa. We are proud of you Sabrina. Our constant prayers for all three of you. AMEN!

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    • Premji Family , January 9, 2013

      Thanks Shahenaz! I am proud of her too! Munira

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