Don’t just make resolutions, dare to dream!

IMG_3265 smallFor as long as I can remember, I have been making New Year’s Resolutions. I would spend hours creating lists of everything I wanted to accomplish and over the years, I’ve had a pretty good track record of making it happen. I would take pride in reflecting critically over the past year, and then ringing in the new year with renewed vigour and intention. Except for this year. I rang in the New Year in the emergency ward of Toronto General Hospital with a high fever and zero energy. And I had a revelation.

Often, our resolutions are based on fixing all the things we’re doing wrong. Or on things we feel we should do and must do, whether it is losing a few pounds, cutting down on Tim Hortons coffee consumption or getting out of debt. Worthy goals. But the “can’ts, mustn’ts and shouldn’ts” inherent to resolutions often come from a place of disappointment in ourselves rather than acceptance of who we are. The pressure we place on ourselves to ‘fix’ all our shortcomings, to become this ideal image we have in our heads, ultimately leads us to a place of frustration. I do not undervalue the power of setting goals – in fact, I’m the biggest believer in writing down things in order to craft your destiny. But, I think, too often, we set goals without thinking about the bigger picture of who we want to be. Today, I want to propose a different approach.

Rather than looking at resolutions as a way to fix yourself, start with acceptance. Believe in yourself. Believe that you are complete and worthy and whole. Believe that you are amazing and unique and that there in no one like you. Believe that you have something meaningful to contribute to this world. Answer your heart’s calling and live fearlessly because life is not a dress rehearsal.

And dream. Re-think your “can’ts, mustn’ts and shouldn’ts”, and dare to dream! Dreaming is about being future focused.  Dreaming is about possibilities and who we want to be. It is when we dream that we discover what we are capable of and what we can create. And what better way to make resolutions than from the place of your dreams.  

One of my dreams for 2013 is health and vitality.  I visualize my body being strong and powerful.  I dream of being able to walk without pain and being able to run with abandon.  Out of this dream, I can create resolutions to support what I want.

As you start the new year, take inspiration from Dr. Seuss who wrote:

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.

You’re on your own, and you know what you know.
And you are the guy who’ll decide where to go.  

You’ll get mixed up, of course, as you already know.
You’ll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go.

So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life’s a Great Balancing Act.

Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.  

You’re off to Great Places!  Today is your day!  
Your mountain is waiting, so get on your way! 

Oh, the Places You’ll Go!”

Happy New Year!

-Munira

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21 thoughts on “Don’t just make resolutions, dare to dream!”

  1. You inspire me with your words, and I am grateful to you for the same, always. My instinct reaction after reading your words Munira, was to announce that from today onwards, I will dream big and achieve them– the most dear dreams of mine! However, my fingers were hesitant to write it down because deep down, I know my limitations too well. It is not lacking of imagination or having big dreams. I have plenty to go around for several lifetimes. It is the eagerness to reach them or the faith in my capacity to achieve them that I lack. One important truth that I have learned from you is, if I invested my energy earnestly rather than fret about the insignificant details, I would have realized many of my dreams by now. So instead, I will promise to be kind to myself and accept me as whole, just like you said. I will look towards myself with compassion and learn to believe in my capabilities more. Thanks for the inspiration Munira…
    Love, Deva

    1. You have no limitations Deva. I know you to be capable of whatever you dream. So dream big! I love who you are – – imperfections and all. It is what makes you so endearing, so human, so fearlessly you! Munira

  2. Happy New Year! We continue to learn so much from your posts, you are a true inspiration to me. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and giving us an opportunity to take a step back and think for ourselves, where we want to be and what’s the true meaning of life journey.

    You are my role model!

    Shama

  3. May Mowla fullfill all your wishes and be with you all the time,sometimes I feel your way and sometimes i feel the opposite, let the human brain work on its own , /take its course, our brains have the right to think differently, its lucid, one person’s thoughts can definately be different than someone elses, , when one takes too much control of the brain/emotions,or goals/aspirations , it does enable one to take control of the situation, however , but let go your feelings once in a while and enjoy .Never put yourself down .I suggest taking caution with implementing our dreams and goals and be ready for embracing different techniques to achieve your goals

    1. It’s so good to have alternate ways of doing things and to think differently. Very healthy indeed! I agree with you that we should not put ourselves down and to enjoy what we do. Munira

  4. You inspire us not only with your words on this day, in this entry, but every day my dear friend. May 2013 bring you more days of feeling energetic and renewed, an abundance of happiness, much fulfillment and on-going inspiration. We are learning so much from you as we walk alongside you on this journey.

    1. You know Kathy, I feel you walking alongside me on this journey. I am so fortuate to have you in my life. We go back a while don’t we? Thank you for your wonderful wishes for 2013. Ditto to you! Munira

  5. Wonderful advice.
    Thinking about you as you undergo yet another treatment on the 10th.
    I wish you health and happiness in 2013.
    Nancy

  6. Thank you Munira for putting it out so clearly. “resolutions are based on fixing all the things we’re doing wrong” is so right and I have always had a problem with that and you have managed to clear it out to me so easily….”Dreaming is about being future focused” and yes I will begin to do that – just like you 🙂

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